Finding time for oneself is almost impossible, if you are not careful. Your body and mind need some quiet down time in which to get a grip of whatever you just did are in the middle of or about to get yourself into.
I used to think that me time was getting to go to the movies or watching television or go on shopping stints to get something I specifically had set my sights on or just buying whatever caught my eye (and was in my budget, of course, a strict budget usually). Over the years I've managed to acquire stuff that I don't necessarily need or needed and now it just sits around, taking up space, sound familiar? I thought I couldn't live without it at eh time I purchased it, it was llife-saving because at the time I felt like I would die if I didn't have it, whatever it was, the perfect watch, the amazing retro shirt (still love those dearly), the set of birdhouses. Yes, I said birdhouses, and no they are not actually meant for birds. And while that was satifying at the time, it was not actual me time. It was me filling the silence that frightened me. I was in essence shopping as a form of distraction, to avoid the silence. I was uncomfortable with silence. I was used to and preferred the party atmosphere that is shopping and movie going. I still do those things because sometimes in life you have to get a break from whatever troubles you, and a movie is simple way to decompress.
In addition to fun distractions, though, I've come to include a silence to my de-stressing. It sounds dumb, because who doesn't, but seriously, do you guys know silence? Don't be scared my brochachos if you have not become acquainted with silence recently or even dislike it. But just between us, so...what is it, what is it about silence the absence of distractions that we dislike?
If you're like me and grew up in the city. It is an amazing experience, one that never ceases to amaze me. While, mostly, it is a good thing as we get to meet different types of people and can befriend all sorts of different groups and ethnicity and enjoy their customs and their cuisines (God I love THAI FOOD AAHH!!!), living in a city does have some down sides.http://blogs.scientificamerican.com/observations/2011/06/22/city-living-changes-brains-stress-response/
Science is still debating what it is, what specific stresses about living in a city, that makes people more prone to and suffer from mental illnesses like depression and suffer from greater anxiety than their counterpart living in the country. As cities become bigger and more people move into them, we need to develop better ways to deal with the growing populations and easier and better ways of interacting with people of different backgrounds. I don't have any proposed solutions ...yet (wink). But I do know for a fact that one thing that did help me de-clutter my mind and allow me to think clearly, free of the ever present clouding commercials for toothpaste and upcoming television shows, was not running out and buying something. I know something that may help you if you are having problems turning off your brain. I know what is the one big thing missing for me, from nature, that is noticeable and was one of my first posts on here, and I've mentioned before, it is the first thing you notice when you go camping.Silence. It really was silence. SILENCE.
Try it for 5 minutes. NO TV. NO MUSIC. Just sit in your car before work, after work, before going into your home, on the bus, without headphones. Time it if you can. Take your time breathing in deeply and exhaling,. If you're not used to quiet, 5 minutes is a long time.
Tomorrow is SUNDAY, already!
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